Extreme Parenting Part 6

I want to start out by saying that I love ya and I’m not trying to embarrass you. Before you do anything else click the star in the upper right hand corner of internet explorer which is already pulled up and then click back on the icon to the right of the skype symbol in your toolbar to pull this page back up. —————————————> That history is the reason that you got that scamware and all the other crap on your computer. I want to tell you that it’s ok. Listen, I was 13 once too and it wasn’t so long ago that I don’t remember. I’m not mad or anything. It’s life and I did it too. I just want you to know that most of those sites are places that can and will ruin your computer. You were actually lucky that it only did what it did. There are viruses and other scamware that can completly ruin a computer and I can’t afford to buy you another 1800 dollar machine because you went to a site that fried it.

There are sites that are completely safe and you can go on them and not have your computer turned into a piece of junk. You can go to these sites and not screw up your computer. Don’t click on any links taking you to other sites and please only go to these. Ninty percent of porn sites have crap that can brick a computer.

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Listen, I won’t tell your mom and I’m not gonna make a big deal out of this. In fact I’m not gonna make any size deal out of it. If you don’t wanna talk about it that’s fine and I completely understand. I’ve been on this earth three times as long as you and there’s nothing you have done or will do that I haven’t done before. If you want to completely ignore this ever happened then I can and will do that too. Please don’t act awkward around me because of this. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. I just can’t have an 1800 dollar machine turned into a brick because you haven’t learned where to go on the internet. I’m not going to put a child lock on your computer or punish you in any way because as I said you did nothing wrong. I would like you to not be back here so much though. You literally spend all of your time back here. I’d like to see you more often. I like doing stuff with you and miss it.

I love you and I couldn’t be more proud of you.

Now, I would think that finding porn on your 13-year-old son's computer would be a sticky thing to deal with.  But I don't think that this is way to handle it.  At no time did he tell this child the huge difference between sex, love-making, and porn.  I understand not wanting to embarrass your child.  As a child I had a mother who embarrassed me often, so I know that isn't effective parenting.  But I have to think that being more worried about a computer than your child's well-being isn't being a good parent either.  

Now, even if you are one of those people who dismisses the evidence that porn is unhealthy to relationships, you must admit that it certainly would give a 13-year-old unrealistic expectations of what sex is.  That isn't the real world.  Porn has no relationship to how real women view sex and it turns them into an object.  

Big time parent fail on this one.  Big time.  Since this is making the rounds on the internet, I would say the chances are good that Mom is going to find out.  Let us hope she does a better job of dealing with this than dad has.  Giving your 13-year-old safe porn sites?  Oh my.  

H/T to The Good Men Project