Kevin Costner Says Goodbye to Whitney Houston

I didn't watch the funeral, but someone sent this to me.  It was very touching.  He didn't ignore her problems, but he gave her an emotional and very touching send off.  I am sure in the years to come her daughter will listen to this again and remember her mommy and realize that her mother was also seen as more than just an addict that threw her life away by others besides herself. 

He brought back memories for me as well, growing up in a tight knit church community, they are very special memories for anyone who was lucky enough to have that experience as a child. 

Quote of the Day - Chris Christie Edition Part 2

“And I’m disturbed by people who believe that because her ultimate demise, and we don’t know what is the cause of her death yet, but because of her history of substance abuse, that somehow she’s forfeited the good things that she did in her life. I just reject that on a human level, when I’ve seen these messages and e-mails that have come to me, you know, disparaging her for her struggles with substance abuse, and what I say to everybody is, there but for the grace of God go I.”

Gov. Chris Christie on the flap that some are making about him lowering the flags at half staff on Saturday to honor New Jersey Native, Whitney Houston.

I have zero patience for people with substance abuse problems. I have seen with my own eyes what it does. I have felt personal sorrow watching it destroy people. But, as a Christian I realize that we all fall short of God's grace. It isn't my place to judge people on their personal failures. I realize that people with problems still have loved ones. As someone who has experience loving a person with substance abuse problems who died too young I also realize that it isn't the totality of who they are.

Here is just a short list of charities that Ms. Houston raised money for:

The Children's Diabetes Foundation

St. Judes Hospital

The United Negro College Fund

The Red Cross

Children's Defense Fund

Her own foundation that did work with children with AIDS and Cancer.

For the people who are making an issue of this, I would just ask where were you when he did the same for another New Jersey native Clarence Clemmons? Was his cause of death more acceptable to you? 

Good on you Gov. Christie.

Camp Whitney V. Camp Bobby

I am so over all the coverage on the death of Whitney Houston. Yes, of course it is tragic. She was too young to die. But the wall to wall coverage, especially when you consider they don't really know anything, is over the top. But that is the nature of the beast in our celebrity driven culture today.

What we do know is that she drowned in a bathtub, the coroners have confirmed water was found in her lungs. What we also know is that in normal circumstances if you fall asleep in the tub and fall into the water you will wake yourself up in time to keep yourself from drowning. It isn't a stretch to believe that Whitney had some sort of drugs in her system that rendered her unable to wake herself up in time. Her addiction issues are well-known and her most recent stay in rehab came less than a year ago in April or May. There are witnesses that said they saw her out drinking several nights before her death and TMZ reports that prescription drugs were found in her hotel room. Anyone that is less than one year out of rehab should not be drinking, let alone taking prescription drugs. All that is doing is changing one addiction for another.

I have watched and read many of things being said about her death. There are many that are putting the blame on her ex-husband Bobby Brown for the downward spiral that became her life shortly after marrying him. While it is true that most of her fame came before and immediately after her marriage, she was a big girl.

Many young women go through the I am addicted to a bad boy phase during the teen and early adult years. I went through that myself. I stayed with a man who had substance abuse problems for far too long. The closer my wedding got to him the more I realized that I couldn't go through with it. Mainly because the realization of how bad of father he would be hit me and I didn't want to put my children through that. While it was painful, I walked away. I also spent years after that examining the reasons that I stayed with him for as long as I did. The conclusion that I came to was my own low self-esteem. He treated me the way he did because I allowed it. I was smart enough to never became the substance abuser that he was. While I did partake in things that I shouldn't have, I always understood my limitations.

To blame Bobby Brown for the downward spiral of Whitney's life is to take every bit of responsibility that she had for her own life. Life doesn't work that way. It would be nice if it did, but the truth is, it just doesn't. While no one can argue with the facts that if you come from a family of substance abuse you are far more likely to be an abuser yourself. That is also true of child abuse, many child abusers were abused themselves. But it is not a forgone conclusion that you will become an abuser simply based on your childhood.

People do survive whatever issues they face in their childhoods and grow to be happy, well-adjusted adults. There are people who have no substance abuse in their childhoods and grow up to become abusers. We make choices in life. One of the reasons that I don't drink very much is because I have addictive personality so I avoid things that cause those type of problems. I won't take much in the way of pain medication unless it is absolutely necessary and I just can't get through the day without it. I try not to take aspirin if I can at all help it.

The truth is that substance abuse is one of the most selfish acts you can do as a human being. Once it has wormed its way into your life it completely takes over. The addiction is first and foremost in your life. It comes before your spouse, your job, your child, and anything else that you love. For you to reach that point your self-esteem is very low. Somewhere within yourself you feel you are not good enough. You need to be drinking and partying for others to like you. It helps you be "one of the crowd". You put everything else in your life on the back-burner. Nothing else really matters as much as the next high. I have seen people walk away from their children, I have seen people ruin their marriages, and I have seen people die at far too early of an age just for the next high. The man I loved died at the ripe old age of 35, leaving two small children who will not even remember him. He did that to himself. No one else was to blame for his problems. He knew he had a problem, but he refused to do anything about it. He didn't love himself enough to change the direction of his life.

The same is true of Whitney Houston. She didn't love herself enough. She didn't realize that her daughter, while a young adult, still needs her mommy. Her family wasn't ready to say goodbye to her. But she didn't care enough to deal with the real reasons that she was addicted. After being in rehab, she was no longer physically addicted to the substances that landed her there in the first place. It became what was between her ears and what was in heart, not what was in her bloodstream. That problem had been licked.

While Bobby Brown is not a man I would want in my life, I certainly can't blame him for someone else's actions. They only things that caused Whitney to use drugs and drink too much were her own two hands. One of her big hits was about the greatest love of all, the love of yourself. Too bad for her family and for the world that loved her talent that they were no more than lyrics to her.

Whitney Houston Dead at 48

Whitney Houston was found dead in a hotel room in Los Angeles.  She was only 48 years old.  A very tragic story. 

Whitney had God-given talent and beauty.  She could sing and she could act.  She had the world at her feet when she was only in early 20's. 

Sadly party demons took over her life after her marriage to bad boy Bobby Brown.  It is a real shame she was never able to get her life back on track. 

Reportly she was seen drinking and partying on Friday at the hotel bar. 

May she find the peace she was unable to find in life. 

Whitney Houston's European Comeback - An Example of Why You Shouldn't Use Drugs

I really don't like making fun of people, but this is awful.  I was a huge fan of Whitney Houston when she first came onto the scene all those years ago.  She had so much talent and she threw it all away.  This is what they should start using for PSA's against using drugs.  What a shame. 




Now, listen to this young man - he knocks it out of the park