While it is true that wasn't likely to happen in any event, this certainly cured me. A friend of mine pointed out this blog post to me, and oh my. I honestly don't know what to say about this except there sure is a great deal of crazy out there.
It took me a little while, but I finally figured out that PIV is Penis in Vagina. Not allowed in the feminist world apparently. Which I am very confused by. I was always led to believe that a main tenet of feminism is that you get to "have sex like a man". Apparently we were wrong for thinking that. Intercourse, bad. Always. Just bad.
First, well intercourse is NEVER sex for women. Only men experience rape as sexual and define it as such. Sex for men is the unilateral penetration of their penis into a woman (or anything else replacing and symbolising the female orifice) whether she thinks she wants it or not – which is the definition of rape: that he will to do it anyway and that he uses her and treats her as a receptacle, in all circumstances – it makes no difference to him experiencing it as sexual. That is, at the very least, men use women as useful objects and instruments for penetration, and women are dehumanised by this act. It is an act of violence.
I am surprised the word empowered doesn't appear in this paragraph. After all that is what feminism is supposed to be, right? Empowering women. So ladies if you like to have a little somethin' somethin' from time to time, you are anti-woman. Hear that. No more penetration for you. Apparently if you want to have a baby:
Penetration of the penis into the vagina is completely unnecessary for conception.
Well yes that is true. One doesn't have to have intercourse to become pregnant. That can happen if a couple uses the "pull out" method of birth control or if a man doesn't quite make it to the "promiseland" before finishing the deed. You can absolutely get pregnant without intercourse. But, speaking of pregnancy:
As FCM pointed out some time ago, intercourse is inherently harmful to women and intentionally so, because it causes pregnancy in women. The purpose of men enforcing intercourse regularly (as in, more than once a month) onto women is because it’s the surest way to cause pregnancy and force childbearing against our will, and thereby gain control over our reproductive powers. There is no way to eliminate the pregnancy risk entirely off PIV and the mitigating and harm-reduction practices such as contraception and abortion are inherently harmful, too. Reproductive harms of PIV range from pregnancy to abortion, having to take invasive, or toxic contraception, giving birth, forced child bearing and rearing and all the complications that go with them which may lead up to severe physical and emotional damage, disability, destitution, illness, or death.
Oh my, when you put it like that I wouldn't want to have a baby either. Bad, horrible, little creatures aren't they? While I suppose that some women have complications during childbirth, most don't. It is a relatively natural process that keeps the human race going. Maybe that is a bad thing too. Who knows?
But I am impressed to hear a feminist say that abortion is inherently harmful to women. After all you don't hear that coming from that side of the aisle too often. Normally it is their "right". I recently saw a photo of young boy, maybe six or seven holding a sign telling me to stay out of his mommy's vagina. Apparently the next nominee for Mother of the Year didn't get the memo of how bad intercourse, birth control, and abortion are for women. They must be a bad feminist, or at least very misguided.
I am not going to go into detail here, but I would venture to say that most women find consensual sex to be pleasurable. But alas, we have been programmed to believe that is true.
There’s a reason men need to groom us into it, and why this grooming takes so long- because it’s so grossly violating and traumatising that we would otherwise never submit to intercourse. The only reason we may now not feelraped or have the impression we desired or initiated PIV, is because men broke down our barriers very skillfully and progressively from birth, breaking down our natural defences to pain and invasion, our confidence in our own perceptions and sensations of fear and disgust that tell us male sexual invasion is painful, harmful and traumatic.Through an all-pervasive and powerful male propaganda, they stuff our minds from infancy with the idea that PIV is normal, desirable and erotic, before we can even conceive of it as something horrifying, and make sure we never see any alternative to their lie – or that if we do, we can no longer take in the information, are punished for thinking and saying otherwise. The fact we may not immediately feel raped doesn’t mean it’s not rape, objectively speaking
I guess we can add bad media, bad hollywood, bad culture. All of which tells us that intercourse is a normal, healthy thing that both man and women can enjoy. I personally think it is far better in a committed relationship between two people who love each other as opposed to scratching an itch, but that is neither here nor there in this conversation. All.Bad. All of it.
Lastly, from a structural point of view, as a class oppressed by men, we are not in any position of freedom to negotiate what men do to us collectively and individually within the heterocage. Men, by whom we are possessed, colonised and held captive, are the sole agents and organisers of PIV. Men dominate us precisely so we can’t opt out of sexual abuse by them; intercourse is the very means through which men subordinate us, the very purpose of their domination, to control human reproduction.
I guess just saying no doesn't cut it.
Seriously? It is very hard to wrap my head around this type of thinking. I have to assume this author is a lesbian or asexual. Not to get into too much graphic detail here, but don't lesbians use sex toys such as a vibrator? I was always under the impression that they did. Which is another reason that I have never fully understood being a lesbian. If you are going to simulate sexual intercourse between a man and woman, why not just be with a man? But I could be wrong. Most of my homosexual friends are men, so this has never really come up in conversation for me before. Nor would I necessarily want it to. But that has been the impression that I have had for many years, maybe I got it from a movie or book. I am not quite sure where I got it and I could very easily be wrong about it.
In any event, this is reason 2,394,294 of why I will never a feminist. You should read the comments. Again, oh my. Apparently people agree with her.