If This is Feminism, I Say No Thanks - Reporter Stages Her Own Rape to Cure PTSD

Mac McClelland had a "friend" of hers violently "rape" her. Why you may ask? She is a civil rights reporter from Mother Jones who was in Haiti covering the continuing aftermath of the earthquake ravaged country. While there she went to the hospital with a woman who was raped and beaten by gunpoint. The culture in Haiti does not look upon women who are raped as victims. As such, she was given very harsh treatment by the doctor she saw. She was no victim, just some slut that got what she deserved. Sadly, this is a mentality across much of the third world. On the taxi ride back to her camp, the woman came across one of the men who raped her. Her emotion overwhelmed the reporter:

Last September, the first time I went to Haiti, I spent my first day out accompanying a rape victim we'll call Sybille to the hospital. The way her five attackers had maimed her in addition to sexually violating her was unspeakable. The way the surgeon who was going to try to reconstruct the damage yelled at her, telling her she'd got what was coming to her because she was a slut, was unconscionable. And the way Sybille went into a full paroxysm when we were on the way back to the post-quake tarp city she lived in was the worst thing I ever saw in my life. We were sitting in traffic and saw one of her rapists, and she started just SCREEEAMING a few inches away from my face, her eyes wide and rolling in abject terror.

After this experience the reporter returned to her life in San Francisco. Or at least tried to. She started exhibiting symptoms of post traumatic stress disorder to the point that she decided to seek help from a therapist. She had her therapy while she was trying to deal with her symptoms. At one point she told her therapist:

"All I want is to have incredibly violent sex," I told Meredith. Since I'd left Port-au-Prince, I could not process the thought of sex without violence. And it was easier to picture violence I controlled than the abominable nonconsensual things that had happened to Sybille.


Eventually her therapist agreed that staging a rape that was violent would be a good idea. The therapist asked her if she knew someone she trusted enough. Apparently, she did:

We'd done this sort of thing before. But at dinner I'd told him, voice shaking, about my PTSD. This time, the fight would be rougher and the stakes higher. And so he paused. "Okay," he said. "I love you, okay?" I said, I know, okay. And with that he was on me, forcing my arms to my sides, then pinning them over my head, sliding a hand up under my shirt when I couldn't stop him. The control I'd lost made my torso scream with anxiety; I cried out desperately as I kicked myself free. But it didn't matter how many times I managed to knock him over to the other side of the bed. He's got 60 pounds on me, plus the luxuries of patience and fearlessness. When I got out from under him and started to scramble away, he simply caught me by a leg or an upper arm or my hair and dragged me back. By the time he pinned me by my neck with one forearm so I was forced to use both hands to free up space between his elbow and my windpipe, I'd largely exhausted myself.


And just like that, I'd lost. It's what I was looking for, of course. But my body—my hard-fighting, adrenaline-drenched body—reacted by exploding into terrible panic. The comforting but debilitating blanket of tension that'd for weeks been wrapped around my chest solidified into a brick. Then the weight of his body, and of the inevitability of my defeat, descended on my ribcage. My worn-out muscles went so taut that they ached. I stopped breathing.


I did not enjoy it in the way a person getting screwed normally would. But as it became clear that I could endure it, I started to take deeper breaths. And my mind stayed there, stayed present even when it became painful, even when he suddenly smothered me with a pillow, not to asphyxiate me but so that he didn't break my jaw when he drew his elbow back and slammed his fist into my face. Two, three, four times. My body felt devastated but relieved; I'd lost, but survived. After he climbed off me, he gathered me up in his arms. I broke into a thousand pieces on his chest, sobbing so hard that my ribs felt like they were coming loose

This women did women who are victims of this unspeakable act of violence a huge disservice. Rape victims don't get to decide who rapes them. Victims don't get a pillow put over their face to lessen the blows. Victims don't get held while they are crying afterwards. Victims have no choices. They are simply a person in the wrong place at the wrong time and become victimized. A trauma that stays with them for the rest of their lives in many cases.


What is most disturbing is the comments at the end of the article. Apparently to the left she is a hero. She went into the "belly of the beast" says one, another thanks her for her courage, and can feel the love and the pain in her story. There is love in this story?


If this is what it takes to be a liberal feminist, I say no thank you. I will pass. Another thing, I am not sure I want a friend like Issac. Call me crazy, but a man who is willing to beat me is not someone I want to hang out with.



 

Has The Tea Party Patriots Gone Too Mainstream?

I just finished reading a three-part series on The Tea Party Patriots. The premise of the series is that they are being investigated. Although, from what I can gather from the articles it was simply them doing the investigations and CREW also requesting an investigation. It is no real secret that CREW is a left leaning organization that only talks about the worst of the worst when it comes to democrats yet will ask for investigations of republicans based on virtually nothing. The publication writing this series is Mother Jones. Not exactly a fair and balanced entity when it comes to The Tea Party and the principles on which it was founded on.



But, the series did raise some very interesting questions about TPP. You may remember that TPP was given a million dollar donation shortly before the mid-term elections to help with the get out the vote efforts. Jenny Beth Martin, the head of TPP had said in quite a few interviews after the donation became public said that money would be filtered down to the local groups in order to help with the efforts.


The writer has found many local group heads that have said that never happened, although it was promised. It also has interviewed a few former leaders within the organization that have some serious issues with Jenny Beth Martin and Mark Meckler. In most cases the money from the donations came with the price tag of turning over the lists of the local groups. Some of the leaders and coordinators of the local groups have voiced some serious concerns with the fundraising groups that they have decided to align themselves with and the contracts that they have signed. By turning over the local lists, the names have been given to these high level fundraising groups, which has raised the hackles of some local coordinators and just plain members.

Having been in the fundraising field for more than a decade I can tell you first hand that there are many groups out there that have terrible reputations and keep a much larger percentage for themselves then what is needed in order to still be a profitable business. It seems that many of the fundraisers that they are using are very cozy with the GOP establishment. Not that is not necessarily in and of itself a bad thing, but it could give an impression that isn't going to be favorable to many of the grassroots activists.

The MDS deal with TPP is anything but cheap. Documents filed with the Colorado secretary of state indicate that MDS will keep at least 70 percent of the money it raises—nearly $3 out of every $4. In 2005, California's attorney general released a report (PDF) showing that MDS was among a number of fundraising companies that returned less than 15 percent of what they raised to some of the charities they worked for. Out of more than $585,000 MDS pulled in for the Concerned Women for America, for instance, not a dime went back to the nonprofit group, according to the report

Jenny Beth Martin is making a salary of $6,000 per month and it also seems has an expense account that pays for her travels across the country. For this amount of money it would seem that many of these tea party groups are a little unhappy with how they have handled their non-profit status. They have filed for 501 (C)4 status. This is basically a lobbying group. They can participate in elections and work for specific candidates but that work is not tax deductible. The upside to using this status is that they are under no legal obligation to release donor information. Which for an organization that has such media scrutiny it allows people to feel that they can give money without their names being released to a sometimes hostile media, the problem is that even people within the organization can't find out information on the donor lists. An organization that has called for transparency has chosen one of the least transparent ways of dealing with its finances.

This has led many grassroots activists to question the motives of some involved. TPP is also getting a reputation of dismissing any local group that questions anything about the finances of the group. Jenny Beth's husband is also involved in the group and he has a trouble background when it comes to finances and has had some serious issues with the IRS which was in part of what destroyed his business. It is very hard to say if his business failed due to any other reason other than the economy going south several years ago. Heavens knows that many businesses went belly up over the past three years through no fault of the owners. But some grassroots activists are asking why would someone who has a background of not paying his taxes is involved with an organization that has yet to file any IRS disclosure forms. It has made some leery.

Mother Jones has also found some former paid employees who were offered great sums of money in return for signing non disclosure agreements. Obviously they refused the $20,000 payments and have spoken to members of the press with their concerns with how the money is being used. Some feel that Martin and Meckel are more interested in making money and fame for themselves then they are in the true message of The Tea Party.

It is very likely that in a movement of political novices that egos get bruised and just plain personalities have gotten in the way and have caused misunderstandings. But it is possible that some or maybe even all of what Mother Jones is saying is true. My recommendation would be for people to give at the more local level and keep on eye on the people who are in charge. The Tea Party has potential to become a powerful force in the next presidential election. It also has the potential to be hi-jacked by people who are looking to take advantage of people who are just interested in helping their country and are sincerely worried about the direction we are taking. Just remember if something doesn't feel right, ask questions. Transparency within The Tea Party movement shouldn't be any different than what we are asking of our government officials. There are some Tea Party groups who are living up to these standards, one has gone as far as to keep it financial records online for anyone to see. If we are going to give our money to these groups, we should be expecting them to live by the practices that they are preaching.